POCKET PCIT ONLINE
  • Welcome to Pocket PCIT
    • Welcome
      • Acknowledgements and Contributors
    • What is PCIT?
    • Common Questions about Parenting and Child Behavior
    • Why Should I Change the Way I Parent
    • How Do I Know PCIT Will Actually Help?
    • How can you influence your child's behavior?
    • Completing Pocket PCIT Online
      • Getting Started
  • Pocket PCIT: CDI
    • Child-Directed Interaction: The PRIDE Skills
      • Praising the Positive
        • Labeled Praise Mixer
        • Praise Quiz
      • Reflections
        • Reflect Quiz
      • Imitate
      • Describe
        • Describe Quiz
      • Enjoyment
    • Special Time Don'ts
      • Avoid Commands
      • Avoid Questions
      • Avoid criticism
    • Ignoring
    • Using your PRIDE Skills All Together
      • Using Your PRIDE Skills Throughout the Day
      • Parent's Points on Using the PRIDE Skills
    • Special Time Daily Skill Practice
      • Setting Up Special Time in Your Home
      • Picking Out Toys for Special Time
      • Troubleshooting Special Time
      • Child-Directed Interaction Skills Review
    • Graduating From Child-Directed Interaction to Parent-Directed Interaction
    • Additional Parenting Resources
      • Parent-Child Interaction
      • Parents Are Models for their Children Handout
      • Kids and Stress
      • Getting Support
      • Additional Discipline Tools
      • Concerns Other Than Behavior Problems
      • Child Development
      • Health
  • Pocket PCIT: PDI
    • Welcome to PDI
      • Overview of PDI
    • Giving Effective Commands
      • Make Commands Direct
      • Give Positively Stated Commands
      • Give Specific Commands
      • Give Commands One at a Time
      • Give Developmentally Appropriate Commands
      • Give Commands in a Normal Tone of Voice
      • Use Commands Only When Necessary
      • Explanations should be given before the Command or After the Child Obeys
    • Examples of Giving Real Life Effective Commands
    • So I Gave My Child a Command. Now What?
      • My Child Obeyed My Command
      • My Child Disobeyed My Command
    • Time Out
      • Reasons for Using the Same Language Everytime
      • Parents' Emotional Reactions to TIme Out
      • Tips for Surviving Time Out
      • Helpful Thoughts During Time Out
    • The Command and Effective Follow Through Sequence
    • Daily PDI Practice at Home
      • Structuring the Environment
      • Introducing PDI practice to your child
      • Practicing Play-Based Commands
      • Practicing Clean-Up Commands
      • Practicing Running Commands
    • Setting Up House Rules
    • Managing Behaviors in Public Settings
      • Prepare Before You Leave the House
      • Praising Your Child in Public
      • Planning Timeout in Public
    • Managing Future Behaviors
    • Graduating from Pocket PCIT Online
  • Parent Club
    • Provider Map
    • Podcast
  • DPICS Counter
  • Welcome to Pocket PCIT
    • Welcome
      • Acknowledgements and Contributors
    • What is PCIT?
    • Common Questions about Parenting and Child Behavior
    • Why Should I Change the Way I Parent
    • How Do I Know PCIT Will Actually Help?
    • How can you influence your child's behavior?
    • Completing Pocket PCIT Online
      • Getting Started
  • Pocket PCIT: CDI
    • Child-Directed Interaction: The PRIDE Skills
      • Praising the Positive
        • Labeled Praise Mixer
        • Praise Quiz
      • Reflections
        • Reflect Quiz
      • Imitate
      • Describe
        • Describe Quiz
      • Enjoyment
    • Special Time Don'ts
      • Avoid Commands
      • Avoid Questions
      • Avoid criticism
    • Ignoring
    • Using your PRIDE Skills All Together
      • Using Your PRIDE Skills Throughout the Day
      • Parent's Points on Using the PRIDE Skills
    • Special Time Daily Skill Practice
      • Setting Up Special Time in Your Home
      • Picking Out Toys for Special Time
      • Troubleshooting Special Time
      • Child-Directed Interaction Skills Review
    • Graduating From Child-Directed Interaction to Parent-Directed Interaction
    • Additional Parenting Resources
      • Parent-Child Interaction
      • Parents Are Models for their Children Handout
      • Kids and Stress
      • Getting Support
      • Additional Discipline Tools
      • Concerns Other Than Behavior Problems
      • Child Development
      • Health
  • Pocket PCIT: PDI
    • Welcome to PDI
      • Overview of PDI
    • Giving Effective Commands
      • Make Commands Direct
      • Give Positively Stated Commands
      • Give Specific Commands
      • Give Commands One at a Time
      • Give Developmentally Appropriate Commands
      • Give Commands in a Normal Tone of Voice
      • Use Commands Only When Necessary
      • Explanations should be given before the Command or After the Child Obeys
    • Examples of Giving Real Life Effective Commands
    • So I Gave My Child a Command. Now What?
      • My Child Obeyed My Command
      • My Child Disobeyed My Command
    • Time Out
      • Reasons for Using the Same Language Everytime
      • Parents' Emotional Reactions to TIme Out
      • Tips for Surviving Time Out
      • Helpful Thoughts During Time Out
    • The Command and Effective Follow Through Sequence
    • Daily PDI Practice at Home
      • Structuring the Environment
      • Introducing PDI practice to your child
      • Practicing Play-Based Commands
      • Practicing Clean-Up Commands
      • Practicing Running Commands
    • Setting Up House Rules
    • Managing Behaviors in Public Settings
      • Prepare Before You Leave the House
      • Praising Your Child in Public
      • Planning Timeout in Public
    • Managing Future Behaviors
    • Graduating from Pocket PCIT Online
  • Parent Club
    • Provider Map
    • Podcast
  • DPICS Counter
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Achieving the Best Results

Your Family Will Achieve Best Results If...

As therapists, we will only get the opportunity to meet with your family one hour per week. Because we are not able to be with your family more often, a lot of the work involved in improving your child’s behaviors will be up to you. Simply, you are with your child far more often than we are. The more you practice the skills taught during session at home, the quicker your child’s behaviors will improve.
We often use the example of music lessons to illustrate the importance of practice to promote change. For example, if you receive guitar lessons once a week and never practice playing the guitar outside of the music lesson, how long would it take you to get good at playing the guitar? Would you make slow progress or fast progress? What if you practiced playing the guitar in between lessons for even 5-10 minutes a day? How much better would your guitar playing be than if you never practiced outside of lessons? Of course you would learn to play the guitar much quicker and better if you practiced than if you didn’t practice!
The importance of practice is the same for learning the skills of PCIT. The more effort and practice you put in outside of the actual sessions, the more quickly you will see improvements in your child’s behavior and in your relationship with your child. ​

Parent's Point: What Other Parent's Should Know About PCIT

Finally, there are some important general things to remember about PCIT:
  • Be honest with yourself about how often you are practicing.
If you are practicing a lot with your child and you are still not seeing changes in your child’s behavior, tell your therapist. Your PCIT Therapist will help problem-solve roadblocks that are getting in the way. Even if you are not practicing at all, please let your PCIT Therapist know. We understand that things come up. The families we serve have incredibly busy lives. We want to help you create solutions for finding time to practice. We promise that this won’t be the first time your PCIT Therapist has heard this. Your therapist is well-equipped to join with you in problem solving this issue. We want to help you succeed so that PCIT is life-changing for your family.
  • Treat your weekly PCIT appointment as just as important as any of your other appointments in your busy schedule. 
Sometimes it can feel completely overwhelming to add just one more thing to your schedule. However, we want you to think seriously about the amount of time that you currently spend dealing with your child’s behaviors. Some parents in PCIT say that they spend at least one hour each day dealing with their child’s behaviors. Parents often report that during that time they feel stressed, under appreciated, and/or sad. Now imagine what it might feel like if you only had to spend about 5-10 minutes a day dealing with your child’s behavior problems. Just think about what it might feel like for you to have all of that extra time. Think about what it might feel like for more of your time with your child to be enjoyable for both of you. We cannot stress enough the importance of spending time building your relationship with your child now. This will help make your family’s future more peaceful, productive, and joyful!
  • Share any doubts you may have about the program with your PCIT Therapist.
If you are having doubts about whether this program is right for your family, be open and honest with your therapist. Often, many of us feel uncomfortable expressing our doubts to others because we are afraid of hurting people’s feelings. Your PCIT Therapist will be sensitive to your doubts and welcome the chance to discuss your concerns with you. What’s great about PCIT is that your therapist is trained to look at your child’s progress weekly using behavior observation and your ratings of your child’s problem behaviors. This information not only guides PCIT, but lets us know whether PCIT is working for your family. What’s really great is that parents often observe actual changes in their child’s behaviors within the first few coaching sessions. That’s right, you will likely begin to see actual changes in your child’s behaviors once you begin to use and regularly practice the skills you learn in session at home! Parents often notice within the first few sessions that their children are: throwing fewer temper tantrums; talking more nicely; playing more gently; sharing; and being more calm.
We often ask parents to take the “Three CDI Coach Session Challenge.” This challenge, if you accept it, includes your family trying out PCIT for three coach sessions. As a part of this, you must commit to practice the skills as directed. At the end of the challenge, you and your therapist will have the opportunity to discuss any changes that you have observed in your child’s behavior and in your relationship. If at that point you feel like PCIT is not right for your family, your therapist will assist in referring you to other services that might be more helpful to your family. However, it is rare for families to go someplace else after they have committed to the PCIT Challenge!
We understand that many of you will face challenges as you start your PCIT journey. So we wanted you to hear directly from parents about their own challenges during PCIT. Hopefully by watching this video, it will get the wheels turning and help you think of concerns that you can share with your PCIT Therapist.
Sometimes when we don’t see quick enough change or we feel stressed out, we feel like we need to cut out things in our schedule. Sometimes parents choose to stop PCIT before completing treatment. If you are feeling that way, take a moment and listen to what parents who graduated from PCIT had to say about staying motivated and being driven for success.

Parent's Point: What PCIT Means to Me

Parent's Point: The Most Difficult Part of PCIT and How it Got Easier

Parent's Point: What Kept Me Going Through PCIT

CHAPTER 3: Child-Directed Interaction
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  • Welcome to Pocket PCIT
    • Welcome
      • Acknowledgements and Contributors
    • What is PCIT?
    • Common Questions about Parenting and Child Behavior
    • Why Should I Change the Way I Parent
    • How Do I Know PCIT Will Actually Help?
    • How can you influence your child's behavior?
    • Completing Pocket PCIT Online
      • Getting Started
  • Pocket PCIT: CDI
    • Child-Directed Interaction: The PRIDE Skills
      • Praising the Positive
        • Labeled Praise Mixer
        • Praise Quiz
      • Reflections
        • Reflect Quiz
      • Imitate
      • Describe
        • Describe Quiz
      • Enjoyment
    • Special Time Don'ts
      • Avoid Commands
      • Avoid Questions
      • Avoid criticism
    • Ignoring
    • Using your PRIDE Skills All Together
      • Using Your PRIDE Skills Throughout the Day
      • Parent's Points on Using the PRIDE Skills
    • Special Time Daily Skill Practice
      • Setting Up Special Time in Your Home
      • Picking Out Toys for Special Time
      • Troubleshooting Special Time
      • Child-Directed Interaction Skills Review
    • Graduating From Child-Directed Interaction to Parent-Directed Interaction
    • Additional Parenting Resources
      • Parent-Child Interaction
      • Parents Are Models for their Children Handout
      • Kids and Stress
      • Getting Support
      • Additional Discipline Tools
      • Concerns Other Than Behavior Problems
      • Child Development
      • Health
  • Pocket PCIT: PDI
    • Welcome to PDI
      • Overview of PDI
    • Giving Effective Commands
      • Make Commands Direct
      • Give Positively Stated Commands
      • Give Specific Commands
      • Give Commands One at a Time
      • Give Developmentally Appropriate Commands
      • Give Commands in a Normal Tone of Voice
      • Use Commands Only When Necessary
      • Explanations should be given before the Command or After the Child Obeys
    • Examples of Giving Real Life Effective Commands
    • So I Gave My Child a Command. Now What?
      • My Child Obeyed My Command
      • My Child Disobeyed My Command
    • Time Out
      • Reasons for Using the Same Language Everytime
      • Parents' Emotional Reactions to TIme Out
      • Tips for Surviving Time Out
      • Helpful Thoughts During Time Out
    • The Command and Effective Follow Through Sequence
    • Daily PDI Practice at Home
      • Structuring the Environment
      • Introducing PDI practice to your child
      • Practicing Play-Based Commands
      • Practicing Clean-Up Commands
      • Practicing Running Commands
    • Setting Up House Rules
    • Managing Behaviors in Public Settings
      • Prepare Before You Leave the House
      • Praising Your Child in Public
      • Planning Timeout in Public
    • Managing Future Behaviors
    • Graduating from Pocket PCIT Online
  • Parent Club
    • Provider Map
    • Podcast
  • DPICS Counter